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Building a motivated family support team

Today the family is commonly defined in terms of strongly supportive, long-term roles and relationships between people who may or may not be related by blood or marriage.

Do you think about your family’s support as a championship team? If it was a championship team, what new remarkable things could it accomplish?

Picture in your mind what the ingredients are of your championship team. Here is what you might see.

  • Each family team member would be motivated by strong desire to make a personal contribution to the success of the family.
  • Each family team member would personally benefit from using their time, talents and resources because of how they helped each other.
  • Each family team memberwould mature emotionally because of the relationships and bonds with other team members.

Using the results of the FamilyEQ Resource Builder as a guide, your family can use new empathy-driven interpersonal skills to build a championship team.

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Is Your Family Like a Wood Stove or Central Heat

Have you ever thought about the communication style of your family? Several years ago a family that lived in a former home we rented called late at night with a complaint. “The furnace is broken. Please come down and fix it.” I roused myself from the warm bed and headed down to the old neighborhood […]

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Relationship Insurance Part 1 of 3: How to Grow & Maintain Love During Conflict

Conflict can either strengthen or destroy a marriage. The way couples handle conflict is the most significant aspect of being successful or unsuccessful in keeping the marriage together.  Those who handle differences appropriately will be able to make it through life with success and an intact marriage. If, however, they cannot deal effectively with the […]

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Relationship Insurance Part 2 of 3: Conflicts are Inevitable, but Break Ups are Optional

Successful relationships happen when we learn how to resolve Conflicts without chronically moving beyond healthy Complaints. Healthy Complaints actually keep a relationship clean and growing. However, when out of frustration and pain, we start to Criticize or show Contempt, there is danger of a permanent break in the relationship. Healthy Complaints use “I Statements” to […]

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Relationship Insurance Part 3 of 3: Oh No! We’re at Stage Four of Conflict. Now What!

Conflict with contemptuous communication (Stage 4) can trigger emotional flooding and reactivity. When one or both of the people become emotionally reactive (emotionally flooded), it is not possible to have a rational discussion. The couple usually drops into the attack fight / flight mode. The pulse races above the norm of 72 and reaches even […]

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