FamilyEQ.us was created to encourage families and empower caregivers. We offer assessment tools and educational resources designed to help improve your family’s relational health and overall well-being so everyone can flourish!
Have you ever thought about the communication style of your family? Several years ago a family that lived in a former home we rented called late at night with a complaint. “The furnace is broken. Please come down and fix it.” I roused myself from the warm bed and headed down to the old neighborhood […]
Relationship Insurance Part 1 of 3: How to Grow & Maintain Love During ConflictConflict can either strengthen or destroy a marriage. The way couples handle conflict is the most significant aspect of being successful or unsuccessful in keeping the marriage together. Those who handle differences appropriately will be able to make it through life with success and an intact marriage. If, however, they cannot deal effectively with the […]
Relationship Insurance Part 2 of 3: Conflicts are Inevitable, but Break Ups are OptionalSuccessful relationships happen when we learn how to resolve Conflicts without chronically moving beyond healthy Complaints. Healthy Complaints actually keep a relationship clean and growing. However, when out of frustration and pain, we start to Criticize or show Contempt, there is danger of a permanent break in the relationship. Healthy Complaints use “I Statements” to […]
Relationship Insurance Part 3 of 3: Oh No! We’re at Stage Four of Conflict. Now What!Conflict with contemptuous communication (Stage 4) can trigger emotional flooding and reactivity. When one or both of the people become emotionally reactive (emotionally flooded), it is not possible to have a rational discussion. The couple usually drops into the attack fight / flight mode. The pulse races above the norm of 72 and reaches even […]
Being with people who are grieving can be difficult because we really want to say and do the ‘right thing’ but are anxious about making a mistake. There are many ways to add to their pain and not many ways to relieve it. Showing our love and care for those we are close to is […]
We have met the enemy and he is us! Pogo, a cartoon by Walt Kelly Research on bullies’ shows that people with a delay or disability are often picked on. At FamilyEQ we cooperate with schools and organizations to prevent and reduce bullying. While childhood bullies are real, many of us struggle with a form […]
New Member Frequently Asked Questions (FAQs)Q: How much time will it take to complete the FamilyEQ Resource Builder reflective-assessment? A: If you stay focused on the reflective assessment task, it should take from 10 – 20 minutes to complete. If you feel you need to take a break, or just want to consider your answers to any of the areas, […]
Be an Encourager . . . What can each one of us do to help a family with a child who has special needs? During our year-long, ethnographic research process, families in the study shared with us those specific things which encourage them – create positive energy and feelings that mean so much. Consider how […]